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Change, Stumble, and Fall

Ericka Unplugged #resolutions
I’m as surprised as you are that I haven’t shaved my head yet.

Change is one of those things that comes easy for me. Too easy.

So I never understood the concept of resolutions because I didn’t need them. I was too spontaneous, too “fly by the seat of my yoga pants,” too “let’s get bangs sober” to even think about planning out my next life step.

And really, I kind of am now.

But that doesn’t mean that this year isn’t big for me.

I turn thirty soon, and there’s a crazy excitement that comes with that number.

I feel like thirty is adulthood on steroids which Type A/super responsible me is majorly thrilled about. I’m also excited because I’ve been feeling this change coming on, a sense of self that is blinding any doubt/regret/guilt that used to overpower me.

I’m Catholic and a mother. Doubt/regret/guilt pretty much courses through my blood stream.

But I’ve decided to put the kabosh on that. Here’s how:

  • Give up Facebook. I’ve officially DELETED (yup, not just deactivated), my account. It was funny how I thought doing this would be the end of the world, but frankly, it’s just the beginning. I no longer have everyone’s lives cluttered in my head, and I don’t have to deal with Facebook’s absurdity, like refusing to take down a graphic dog fighting page I reported because it somehow didn’t violate their Terms of Service. That place is toxic. Ditch it and breathe, my friends.
  • Listen to classical music. I’ve only been listening to classical music here lately, and it’s weird, but I actually feel smarter. It’s probably because Pitbull is nowhere near that station.
  • Infuse yoga into my daily schedule. Seriously, y’all, this shit is addictive. I’ve tried it before, but my relationship never lasted with yoga because I have the attention span of a yorkie. But I found Adriene, and she’s become my new best friend. She doesn’t know it yet, but that’s fine. She’ll be excited about the matching outfits I bought us.
  • Clean eats. We were vegan for about a year and a half around these parts, and I think, for me, that’s the very reason I ditched the whole healthy living thing in the first place. I felt too restricted giving up a major part of my diet, and it brought out my “naughty” side. So this go round, things are different. I’m choosing to infuse more healthy things into my life instead of focusing on taking things out. That being said, I’m lessening my dairy, gluten and alcohol intake, but that’s because these things wreck my body, and I can actually feel that damage. As my new bestie Adriene puts it, find what feels good, and for me, those things don’t.
  • Reading and writing – oh my! I’m cooling the whole “market my writing like a badass” thing to focus more on my ACTUAL writing plus taking the time to read more. It feels wonderful. I’ve also found I have more time for my amazing family now that social media is an occasional thing for me and not the reason I exist. I told you. That shit’s toxic.

So those are the things that I have “resolved” to do to grab my life by the balls and make it fit like a comfy sweater.

My friend, Cristina, calls it “shifting,”Β and I love that. A shift in perspective.

I know there will be a lot of stumbling and falling along this journey, but I’ll be documenting it here to clear my head and chat with you folks about it. Feel free to talk me down off the ledge, my friends.

Also? Thanks for ingesting my crazy in advance.

So tell me, how will you be shifting your perspective this year?

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25 thoughts on “Change, Stumble, and Fall”

  1. I think I’m on the “delete Facebook” game with you too. I’ve been off the grid, as you know and I actually tense up when I think about popping my head up in the land of Facebook. You’re right, Facebook is totally absurd. And welcome to the thirties (soon, but not yet) it’s a game changer fo’sho.

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  2. I’ve tried to force myself to pay attention to social media, but blogging is about all I can handle. People I lost 20 years ago kept finding me on Facebook. There was a reason I lost them.

    The 30s and 40s have been awesome decades for me – young enough to recover from mistakes, old enough to give a little less of a shit each day. Enjoy!

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  3. You sound like you are in a good place. I have decided to cut out the processed crap and concentrate on healthy as well. This has been clearing my brain from all the food poison and helping my writing immensely. Best to you.

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  4. I thought I had a pretty good life going until I turned 30… then it got even better. It’s kind of like turning 18, when all the awkwardness and gangliness of your teenage growth spurt stops, and you are finally in control of your body enough that you don’t keep knocking things over. When you turn 30, your life experience catches up to you and you learn to weild it without knocking things over in your life. Your perspective becomes more clear and the things you once thought were signs of success or failure begin to change β€” and you begin to understand that one of life’s most basic pleasures is simply being in the moment as much as possible. Cheers to turning 30, Ericka; you’re just getting to the good part πŸ˜‰

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  5. Social media is giving me hives lately. I’ll be thirty this year too and to be quite honest. ..I find this terrifying. However…I accomplished my goal to write a book before I turned 30. Hallelujah!

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  6. Congrats to you, Ericka! If I could be so bold. I’d like to delete Facebook, and ditch social media…sometimes. Sometimes not. I would get a lot more writing and reading done without it. I like the new blog look. You always do it up so well.

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  7. Go get ’em, chicklet (I’ll promote you to chick when you turn 30). It sounds like you’ve got some great inspiration, a good plan and a wonderful support network. I wish you much success, and thank you for validating my non-Facebooking self. I admit to a mild Candy Crush addiction, but that’s it. My perspective so far this year can be summed up by my tagline – “Heaven doesn’t want me. Hell’s afraid I’ll take over.”

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  8. I can’t agree with you more, in regards to the classical music. Its like Mozart and Beethoven are actually twiddling their fingers on the piano and somehow altering your brain at the same time! It makes a nice change from Robin Thicke.

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  9. I have a love – hate relationship with Facebook. There are days when I’m on Facebook I say
    “Geez Lola, Really..get out of the house and go for a jog.”
    Yahknow. I do unplug when I’m on vacation or when my boys and grandchild come over.
    Ok..you are so young. 30? Enjoy it. Good thing you are watching what you eat.
    My shifting this year is ‘I’m speaking up more.” Oh yeah…some people in my family don’t like it but
    OH WELL!

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    1. Haha, good for you for finding your voice. πŸ™‚ And since I’ve gotten off of Facebook, I haven’t missed it once. I definitely recommend it!

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  10. I just discovered your blog and I loved this post! It’s raw and real and I love that! I also feel you on the changes you have made and have considered tossing my FB as well. I have found a really healthy balance with it though, so this is a good thing. Yoga is amazing and I need to re-incorporate this in my daily routine again as well but I LOVE ZEN music for keeping calm and I listen to it during studies and writing – it helps me stay focused! πŸ™‚ Kudos for you wanting to make peaceful, positive changes in your life. I love it!

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    1. Thank you. πŸ™‚ I have to be honest. I wrote this post several months ago, and my life has gone in a slightly different path, but I’ve kept it up because I think it’s important to remind myself where I’ve been and to focus on where I’m heading. I’ve recently accepted Christ in my life, and I like looking back at this post because when I wrote it, I had so many questions and a hard time determining what type of life I needed to live in order to be “happy.” I now see happiness as something else entirely, something that I don’t have to dictate, and it’s peacefully refreshing. I wish you all the luck in the world on your journey. It sounds like you’re heading in a great direction, and it’s great to hear you’re finding balance in your life. And I highly recommend ditching Facebook! I haven’t missed it once! Thank you so much for reading and commenting! πŸ™‚

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      1. Ericka – This is wonderful to hear. God and Jesus is my source of light through everything. I’ve seen his hand in so many parts of my life, and I couldn’t imagine living a life without knowing him. I have accepted him since I was a little girl, but my faith journey changed a lot in the last couple of years, and it’s been amazing – even with the rougher times. I hope no matter which direction your life has changed that it’s for the better for YOU. That is all that matters. I talk about some of these things in my blog and will do more going forward if you are ever interested. Either way though, thank you for your response and kind words as well. I think it’s great to reflect on old thoughts. May you continue to find peace and happiness throughout your day to day life. Blessings!

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